6 Simple Soft Girl Shifts (That Don't Require Owning Chickens or Quitting Your Job)

The REAL keys to embracing your "soft girl era"... no sourdough skills required!

Seems like everyone wants to go back to the basics, quit their high-stress job, get some sourdough starter, and spend their days slowly, romantically, living their most nourishing, Instagram-worthy life.

And I’m here for it!

What girlie girl who’s sick and tired of living in a fast-paced, information-overloaded, patriarchal society doesn’t want to escape the matrix and feel so cradled by life that she can just focus her energy on whatever feels most soulful, grounding, and juicy on any given day.

The day starts slow, alarmless… you’re journaling, meditating, hydrating, tending to plants, making avocado toast.

The afternoons are for mindful strolls, crafts, flower picking, writing, baking, or whatever is inspiring you that day.

Evenings are cozy, candlelit, filled with skincare rituals, relaxing tea, and reading a spicy romantasy in soft linen sheets.

I realize this is a fantasy that many will not be able to attain, due to, ya know, the reality of being an adult living in a fast-paced world, burdened with real-life responsibilities (and a broken monetary system).

But there is hope!

Just because you can’t quit your job and move to Italy to tend to your perfect Tuscan garden and cute baby chickens, doesn’t mean you can’t create a softer, more nourishing life and kickstart your “soft girl era”.

The truth is, your soft girl era is not a certain “perfect” life or list of circumstances. It’s when you step more fully into a version of you that lives within you.

She’s already there, just waiting to be expressed through you and your life.

She’s your inner softness, your inner child, your inner nurturer, your inner creative.

I know you can hear her calling.

So, how will you honor her today?

Here are some simple shifts you can make, no matter what your life looks like, to start relaxing into that soft, feminine energy that your soul has been desperately craving.

Stop forcing and manipulating, start trusting and surrendering.

The most powerful feminine energy doesn’t force and micromanage, it aligns and allows. Where can you trust God more? In what areas of life can you let go, even if just a little?

You can only be held when you stop trying to do it all yourself.

Slow it down.

No matter what you’re doing, I guarantee you, you can do it slower.

Slow down your walks with the pup. Slow down your chopping and stirring when you cook. Slow down your speech when you talk. Slow down your sexual encounters.

Slow the general rush that you probably didn’t even realize you’ve adopted from living in such a fast-paced world.

Maybe your overstimulation is environmental, and means moving outside of the city, or deleting social media… Or maybe, it just means having more patience with yourself and your life.

Ask for help.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed and burdened by life, it’s time to get resourceful and start asking for help when and where you can.

Maybe it’s a therapist to help with the mental aspect. Maybe your parents can help out with the kids once a week. Maybe you and your spouse can hire help for around the house. Maybe you enlist a friend to be your workout/accountability buddy.

You know what you need, go ahead and ask for it.

Incorporate more nourishment, creativity, and play.

Even if you can’t subtract every stressful situation and person from your life yet, you can still add more play time.

Never underestimate the power of a weekly bubble bath, a Sunday funday working on the garden, or a creative project you tinker with here and there, just for fun. You can always let your inner soft girl out more. And I challenge you to do so.

The easiest way to do this is to start living by one question: “What would feel nourishing to me today?”

Then, do that.

Romanticize the little things.

Make your matcha like it’s a ritual. Light a candle and play some soft music while you work from home. Watch your favorite rom-com while you fold laundry. Make yourself some fancy lemon and cucumber water like you live at the spa.

Why not?

Small, intentional tweaks can spark a major vibe change.

Let something (anything) be easy.

Choose the easy, one-pan dinner. Just say no to the thing that you’re dreading. Let yourself be imperfect, for once.

Soft living is about embracing more ease and giving yourself permission to rest, receive, and sometimes, do the bare minimum without feeling guilty.

How will you soften?

Your “soft girl era” isn’t about what you do or where you live; it’s a frequency that you choose. A lifestyle you embrace in any and every moment you can.

You don’t have to change your whole life overnight; it’s about making tiny, tender, self-loving decisions, one moment at a time.

So what shifts will you make? How will you slow it down and nourish yourself today?

Let me know. I’d love to cheer you on.

Sending all the soft vibes,
Kelsey

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